So its a brand new week…
Back to the grindstone for all of us again.
Fortunately it’s a bright and sunny day in Port Elizabeth, South Africa.
This weekend I spent some time thinking about life and love.
Why is it that all of us crave that feeling of being loved? Why is it that every single last one of us will put ourselves through the process of falling in love? I mean, look at the gut-wrenching insecurities that we go through during this process!
Does she love me? Did I type that SMS properly? Has she received the SMS? Did I offend her? Why hasn’t she replied by now? She hates me! Thats it, we’re over. I can’t believe I’ve wasted all my… oh… I got an SMS…
It happens to all of us right? It’s not just me?
I’m in the unfortunate position right now of not being able (due to unmentionable circumstances) to formally go out with my girlfriend. We’re both in love with each other and we both know that we’ve found our marriage mate. Secure right?
Noooo…
Still, in this relative position of security, we both have our wobblies. Theoretically, we should both be 100% convinced of our positions relative to each other and thereby have total security in ourselves and our relationship. But still, there are those moments of insecurity when you’re about ready to give it all up because she’s exceeded the minimum time for an SMS reply.
Why, I ask you, why…
I guess its because we want total an absolute security. We want that reassuring touch, that glance across a crowded room… We need reassurance on a daily basis.
*Enter the “Golden Rule”, Stage Right*
Do unto others, as you would have them do to you.
So I’ve decided as of today, if its even possible, to show more attention, to give more glances, to give more reassuring touches…
Maybe, just maybe, the ellusive relationship security will be attained.
Just maybe…